We live in an anti-aging society. We are supposed to fight wrinkles, age spots, and gray hair at all cost. When my hairline started to turn white, I became obsessed with dying my hair. I didn’t have a healthy attitude about dying my hair as part of my personal grooming repertoire. I felt that my gray hair was an affront to my self-esteem and my physical attraction. I was dying to dye my hair.
I noticed that my breasts weren’t as firm as they were in the past. I started to gain weight. Noooooo God! Youthful beauty equals power, especially for women. I felt like I was losing my self-worth as a human being. Vitamins, exercises, anti-wrinkle creams, hair dyes—you name it—none of those things will change the number of years you have been on earth. Every person ages differently.
Some people have youthful faces, but can’t seem to lose weight. Some people have the body of eighteen-year-olds and the faces of eighty-years. Please don’t compare yourself to other people…especially celebrities. They have a completely different lifestyle than most people.
So before I tell you to age gracefully by being grateful for the body you have in the next paragraph, I am going to tell you to take a moment a grieve the passing of your youthful appearance. Keep in mind, not only were you youthful in a physical sense, you were also youthful in a spiritual sense. Your youthful naivete and your youthful ignorance to some degree allowed you to live in ignorant bliss. You know… before your first heartbreak, death of a close family member or friend, or losing a job that you loved, dropping out of college.
Everything in life has its ups and downs. You may not look the same as you did when you were younger—but you shouldn’t look the same—because you are not the same person. You are wiser, smarter, stronger and more confident than you were back then. If you had the knowledge back then that, you have now…you probably would have missed a lot of fun times. Smile.
Our bodies are displaying a story of valor, honor, and wisdom that only the lines of time could write. Choosing to age gracefully is a bold act of self-love and self-respect for your time here on earth.
So, get out that that picture book, and claim it— Say it! “Yes! I was smoking hot in that bathing suit! I looked good in those jeans! Say it like you mean it! Be appreciative of your body with pride and dignity.
Write a letter to your younger self and thank her for all of your wonderful life experiences that have led you to this moment. Forgive yourself for any and all mistakes that you made in the past because you simply did not know any better. Forgive everyone and everything in your past because we all are doing the best we can.
Be grateful for your health. Be grateful that you are still here on earth to share your gifts and talents. Don’t focus on what’s wrong, or how your body used to look in the past—focus on all of the gifts and lessons your current body has blessed you with.
Give yourself a few years to settle into your aging body with ease and grace.